Are you sick and tired of jumping from one diet or eating plan to another, only to have temporary success? Most likely, you’ve tried it all before. You’ve worked with a Nutritionist, you’ve done every program out there like Whole30, Keto, Weight Watchers, you name it–you’ve tried it! You’ve probably lost weight (say 20-30 pounds) and then end up right back to where you started (and maybe even plus more).
You’re tired, worn out, sick of being disgusted with yourself and your body, are losing hope but also want to get a handle on this “food thing.” You’re able to eat well-balanced meals for the most part but snacks tend to be your downfall with stashes of candy, chocolate or bags of chips. You feel it’s best to not have those foods in your house but even if you keep your kitchen free of those foods, you still find a way to get them from your closest drive thru when you want them! Where there’s a will, there’s a way, right? If snacks aren’t your downfall, then maybe you can be “good” from Monday through Thursday but by Friday it becomes a free-for-all for the weekend.
Have you ever thought:
You might think lack of self-control, willpower or self-sabotage are to blame. We’re often told, the harder we work, the more results you’ll get. Diet plans say willpower is the silver bullet. But that puts the responsibility on you, which is fine when you’re on track and having success, but what happens when you fall off track? Then that’s on you too and you’ve failed again! If only you could resist the foods you love so much.
Guess what? It isn’t really about you! You just haven’t had the right systems, structure or support until now.
You’ve likely heard of emotional eating and either identify as an emotional eater or not. However, there are deeper reasons behind your food choices than you might think, so what you think of as self-sabotage isn’t really your fault! When we’re lacking emotional safety of any kind, it is challenging to avoid the Twizzlers, sleeve of cookies or pint of ice cream.
So let’s dig in and get to the root of your self-sabotaging behaviors!
This is what I call the “Emotional eating loop”:
It starts with a trigger. There are typically four, which cause people to use food. They are tired, anxious, inadequate or lonely. You look at yourself in the mirror and suddenly feel “fat” (inadequate).
This triggers your story. Your story is something that was created earlier in your life that was learned based on how you perceived things to be from what you were taught by society, at home, at school, etc. It has protected you in some ways and has been keeping you stuck in others.
When you looked in the mirror, your story might be that you’ve failed and are going to end up alone, or will be rejected for your body.
You immediately start thinking about how far behind you are with your body. This is part of a competitor stress response where you compare your current body to a version of your past body.
So you start focusing on a new eating plan you can start to help get you back on track and lose weight ASAP. This behavior leads to bee lining it to the pantry where nobody can see you and you end up eating 7 snacks in 15 minutes. Cue auto-pilot eating!
You were already lacking self-trust after looking in the mirror but now that you’ve also eaten so many snacks, the shame is real! And that loops back to the trigger.
During Truce with Food, we break down each of these unconscious phases of the loop so you can gain clarity as to what is behind your lack of willpower and self-sabotage. By gaining this awareness, your stops to Walgreens for chips, cookies and ice cream will decrease to the point where you’ll forget it’s even there. It won’t be because you have to resist eating those foods, it’s because you won’t NEED them anymore!
• Kick off session: We will have a live group coaching call where we will go through an exercise to get to the bottom of your unaligned eating and why you fall off track. We start by discovering your food and body story. I’ll guide the group through the process to see how self-sabotage and your out of control eating are rarely about the food. Clients leave this session feeling hopeful, empowered and excited to continue our work together.
• Modules: The first month you’ll receive a new module each week. In months 2 and 3 you’ll get a new module every two weeks. You’ll receive a recorded lesson that will introduce a new homework exercise to help you continue to be able to connect and understand your unaligned eating choices. These lessons will guide you to generate ah-has, clarity and progress towards your food, body and health goals.
• 8, 90-minute group calls: During these live calls, you’ll have the opportunity to talk through what you’re uncovering to help deepen your self-discovery and awareness. You’ll also be able to ask questions in case you need help making further connections with the homework and what you’re experiencing in your life.
• Duration: 12 weeks
• Online community & Support: In between calls and lessons there will be a classroom for ongoing discussion, learning, questions and support among me and the group
• Participation will be capped so the group stays small enough to ensure personal attention
• Cost: $1,448
"When I first started Truce with Food, I was hoping to remove shame around eating out of alignment with what I understood to be appropriate healthy eating. While going through the program, I learned junk food was associated with reward, fun and love and I used food as a way to avoid my feelings. Whatever “bad” feeling I had, I would smother it with the foods that represent “love.”
My eating is now healthier and binge eating of non-nutritional food is mostly a thing of the past. I pick and stock better foods and food is less of an emotional crutch overall.
I recommend this program to anyone struggling with eating issues tied to unresolved or unexamined emotions. Laura creates a safe place for you to share your worst secrets in a non-judgmental environment, bringing the secret shames to the light of day, allowing for understanding and healing."*
“After completing the six month program, I feel stronger in being assertive for my needs. I have become less scale obsessed and more rooted in what are my actual goals that I want to accomplish, such as being more physically capable and happy. I feel happier understanding my relationship with food than actually hitting a number on a scale.
This program is helpful for anyone who is frustrated or confused by their ability to have a healthier relationship with food. I am in my early 40’s and thought that maybe this was just the way it was going to be but now I do not feel as defeated as I did going in.”*
“I've tried so many ways to lose weight, from direct approaches like calorie counting and working with a trainer, to indirect methods like life coaching and internal work, so I was afraid that I'd heard it all before--that this wouldn't be anything new.
During the program I learned to be less hard on myself when I start seeking comfort. Knowing what was happening, acknowledging it and giving myself permission instead of beating myself up was huge.
As a result of doing this work, I am now binging less and food feels less like a means of comfort. I have been stepping outside of my comfort zone in various areas, including communicating better at work and working with my boss to come up with solutions in a new role. I"m also being more authentic to myself and am adapting in various areas instead of accommodating. I recommend this program to anyone who is feeling burned out and could use more self-care.”*
*Results may vary from person to person.
The process and approach is the same with the same materials, tools, experimenting and then reflecting with me. The biggest differences are in the price and number of sessions, but the value is the same.
If you’re on the fence of which approach is right for you, think about how you will learn best and what will fit within your budget.
In the private coaching version of Truce with Food, you have the option of a 2- or 6-month program with 4 or 12 private sessions respectively. You also get all the materials and email support between sessions.
In the group experience of Truce with Food, you get all materials, 8 group sessions and 24/7 online support from me and the other participants in our private online community. The group will be capped at around 10 people so you will get plenty of individualized support and attention. If you feel you need additional support at any point during the program, there will also be an option to sign up for private sessions.
The great part about a group is you’ll learn from others as much as you learn from me. It can be so helpful to see you’re not alone in this journey, which can help progress your healing.
The difference with Truce with Food® is it isn’t just another tool or tactic to try that’s built around willpower. Throughout the process, we will get you to see your “bad eating” as a protective behavior and will start to understand the real root cause of why you battle food and “fall off track.”
Ultimately, we will shift the focus off of dieting and deprivation and onto you, your emotions and your triggers.
So many programs promise to be different but underneath they’re all different ways to give you a formula (often not based on research), or cut calories that create more restriction, which only leads to eventual rebellion.
This is a process you can’t fail if you devote yourself to trying and learning how to understand your out of alignment eating, which is what Truce with Food gives you the awareness and tools to do. It doesn’t require willpower in the traditional sense. In fact, imperfection is built into the material and is expected!
If you can commit to showing up when you feel imperfect, this process will work for you. There’s not a formula for success or failure here. This process meets everyone exactly where they are in their self-awareness and lifestyle. It’s the opposite of having a bunch of rules to follow that only fuel the battle and a sense of failure.
Results vary by client based on where they are in their journey, how open they are to the process and the work they put in. However, many of my clients tend to:
It seems we are constantly busy and it doesn’t really let up. The great thing about this program is your life is the classroom. Most of the work you’ll do will be with experimenting with new ways of being in your life. It’s not something that’s done separate from your life.
In the first month, the program will require about 2 hours per week for maximum benefit. In months 2 and 3 you can expect to spend about 2 hours every other week. There will be 10-20 minutes of content, a 90-minute Q&A call (recordings will be available if you can’t attend live) and about an hour of coaching homework.
Everything will be done virtually. All group coaching calls will take place on Zoom and there will be an online classroom for ongoing discussion, learning, questions and support among the group and me.
Schedule a 40-minute Curiosity Call free from shame, guilt and judgment. You'll fill me in on your challenges with your relationship with food, gain some insight, and will have a safe space to talk about what's been swirling around in your mind. You'll walk away knowing the steps to create sustainable change (no willpower required)!
There's absolutely no charge for our first chat.
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