This is a guest post from Liz Hansen, owner of the Chicago Boudoir Photography Studio
If you’re like many women, you may feel some shame and dissatisfaction with your body. But what if you could start loving your body right NOW, just as it is?
I want you to picture what that would be like. Imagine feeling love and acceptance toward your body, even celebrating it. Imagine not hating your body or shaming it.
Because here’s the thing:
You could lose weight, you could tone up, you could hit your goal dress size … and STILL hate your body.
You might not believe me.
You might be saying, “No way, Liz! If I was a size 2, I would definitely NOT hate my body! I would love my body! I would worship my body at a size 2.”
The truth is that you won’t love your body anymore at your ideal size than you do now if you don’t start loving your body now.
It is 100% possible to lose weight and still only see flaws when you look at your body.
How do I know this?
I know this because I’ve photographed hundreds of women at the boudoir studio, in every shape and size. And guess what? Size does not equal body love and size does not equal beauty. I see it with my own eyes every single day. Confidence and beauty truly spring forth from within.
So how do you start loving your body and feeling confident and gorgeous RIGHT NOW?
There are lots of ways to get started on the self-confidence journey, but I want to share one tip that has helped me.
#1 Body confidence tip: Self-talk
I want you to think for a minute … how do you talk to yourself? What do you say in your mind when you get ready in the morning? What words do you use when you talk about your body?
Some women are in a cycle of thinking and saying awful things about their bodies. They say hurtful things about themselves that they would never say to a friend.
Imagine being a bit kinder to your body and treating her like a friend rather than like an enemy.
I know to start it might be too much of leap to start saying something bold like, “I love my body.”
So my tip is to start much smaller.
Instead of saying something awful about your body, try something like this:
- “I have a body.”
- “My body allows me to do things I love.”
- “I have a body and therefore I can [insert something you like to do. For example: hold hands with my boyfriend, eat Cheetos, hear the sound of the ocean].”
Just the small act of replacing negative self-talk with neutral statements like the ones above will jumpstart your body love and body confidence. Give it a try!
If you’ve been struggling with loving your body, I believe that a boudoir shoot can help you to start seeing your body in a different light. Clients tell me all the time they walk out of the boudoir studio with a newfound confidence and spring in their step.
A boudoir shoot can jumpstart your self-love and body acceptance, no matter where you are on your journey.
What do you think about all this? I would love to hear from you! Where are you on your journey to love your body? Have you used any positive self-talk techniques? Text me anytime at 312.448.8889. I can’t wait to hear from you!
About Liz Hansen:
Liz Hansen is the owner and photographer at the Chicago Boudoir Photography studio. She lives in Evanston with her techie husband, two young daughters and a French bulldog named Quarantina. Liz enjoys Cheetos, swimming in Lake Michigan and supporting local women through volunteer work.