Live Health Coaching Session On Lack of Consistency and Feeling Out of Control Around Food

In this health coaching session with Parvinder, we dive into the reasons we aren’t as consistent as we would like to be around our eating and exercise. We uncover how those habits are protective and why they make perfect sense.


Here’s an overview of what you’ll hear in the session:

0:28-4:02: Main challenge(s) with relationship with food

4:07-4:55: Going through transitions and how they can throw off our eating

6:04-7:19: The start of not being as consistent

7:21-8:58: What leads to not being as consistent and feeling out of control around food/weight/eating

9:20-9:45: Times it’s harder to stay consistent

10:15-11:05: How being out of routine can throw off consistency with eating

11:30-12:10: Judgments and thoughts that come up when not being consistent

12:13-14:00: The impact other people have on how we feel about ourselves and our eating

14:25-17:36: Is it normal for coaches and other people who support clients to question themselves?

17:38-19:11: Comparing to your younger self and how that’s protective, even after doing a lot of healing work

19:40-24:30: What’s actually happening when we fall off track, or aren’t as consistent with working towards our health goals

25:30-25:50: How a protective side of yourself shows up and why

26:45-27:50: Enjoy going to the gym but avoid doing it

27:58-28:16: Competing with others physically and how that trickles into how we feel about ourselves in general

28:19-30:56: What is contributing to feeling out of control that isn’t about the food

31:03-31:55: Feelings of loneliness even when we have a great support system

32:00-33:14: What it can look like to feel emotionally unsafe/uncertain, which leads to not caring about what you’re eating

33:15-33:30: How mental exhaustion leads to physical exhaustion

33:32-36:03: Feeling weighed down by expectations of who you should be, instead of being yourself when around new people

36:07-37:10: The risk if Parvinder is free and who she is

37:12-38:55: Gap between who you are as yourself and how you’re showing up in current relationships

40:07-41:05: Why it makes sense that Parvinder hasn’t been able to be consistent

42:07-43:05: Disruption in our stability and foundation

43:05-45:03: Where do I start and what do I fix first?

45:57-46:48: What it really means when we feel out of control

46:58-49:30: What leads to the resistance of going to the gym and not going consistently

49:34-50:16: Why Parvinder isn’t going to the gym regularly as a form of protection

50:23-52:50: What’s important to her about going to the gym and what she values about it

54:02-54:18: Tool to create a sense of safety at the gym

54:40-56:15: The importance of thinking about how you want an event to end and how it can impact your food choices in the moment

56:17-59:32: What leads to feeling like an outsider

1:00:10-1:01:57: When things are uncertain, is control the solution?

Leave a comment with anything that resonates, or any questions you have.

If you’d like to explore how Truce with Food can help you free up space from thinking/stressing about food, schedule a Curiosity Call and we can discuss how it works.

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*This session has been shared with full consent by Parvinder. All other health coaching sessions are kept 100% confidential.

About Laura:

Laura is a Certified Holistic Health Coach and holds a certification from the Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN). She has supported over 100 clients who know what they should be eating but have a hard time sticking to it by helping them identify the familiar patterns keeping them stuck so they can radically transform their relationship with food.

Laura is a facilitator of the research-based Truce with Food® process, which helps clients achieve sustainable results by getting to the bottom of why they fall off track and aren’t able to remain consistent. She’s also the creator of the self-study course, “Behind Your Cravings.”

After successfully losing 60 pounds and working through her own emotional relationship with food, Laura’s mission became helping others get to the bottom of their self-sabotaging patterns.

Laura coaches clients one-on-one, in small groups, runs workshops, speaks at summits and conferences, and has been featured in Voyage Chicago. Laura can be contacted at [email protected].

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